4. Magic-making
The emotional thinking about carrying on traditions and creating special life moments. Think about who creates the “magical moments” at Christmas and who does all the work to make that happen.
5. Dream-building
This relates to the work required to make sure everyone close to us is finding the right opportunities to fulfil their passions and ambitions. This might involve signing your children up to their ideal hobbies or ensuring your partner gets time to play golf or devote long hours to his career.
6. Individual upkeep
Think self-care but more – this load is about whether you are keeping fit and healthy to maintain or promote optimal physical and mental health – as well as presenting that image to others.
7. Safety
This involves thinking about whether your loved ones and community are safe in real and hypothetical ways. It’s also worth recognizing that certain parents carry heavier mental loads related to safety – people of color and families in the disabled community for instance. This can involve a constant worry about their own and their families’ safety.
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